Attitude makes habits, Habits makes character and character makes a man

World comprises of billions of people. Majority of them are anonymous, while few persons are capable of making impressions all over the world. Why they became famous??  What qualities placed them at different position than others? Why they could be able to succeed in their life and others not ? They all are the products of same society but some of them able to make their way amid all negatives and some are caught in the vicious circle of Negativity. As bad roads make good drivers in the same way those people who take these impediments as a stepping stone rather than stopping stone, succeeded in the way of their life. The factor which plays a candid role in making "personality" of any person is his/ her Attitude. Person's Attitude determines, where he will be placed in future. To what extent a man can go, totally depends on how he takes the things. A positive attitude can accomplish the impossible while negative attitude can drag a man to nadir. William James of Harvard university said, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind."

Our attitude towards things take the shape of 'habits'. If we approach the things positively, it imbibe positive habits which in turns make our benign Character. And our character makes us great. And ‘character’ of a person is the most valuable asset which can decide his status in the society. A person with good character is always respected , while person with nasty character always recieves  cast aspersions on his character. People with bad character even sometimes face estrange and they get ostracised from the society. It is aptly said that "If wealth is lost, nothing is lost; if health is lost, something is lost; if character is lost, everything is lost."

Attitude of people also impacts on their mindset. Things which people repeatedly do become habits and when habits are applied in daily routines becomes Mindset. if a person is visionary then he could imbibe good habits to form their constructive mindset and can excel to become a "man". While destructive mindset can produce a monster which can be detrimental for other people in society.

Inculcating good Attitude is tough albeit it is possible, if it is taken care since the inception of childhood days. Right attitude comes from the ethical values, moral principles and positive approach of pragmatic life. In indian society itself, we can find many 'walking encyclopedia'. It is because knowing facts and figures can not make you great, but the things which we do and the etiquette which you have instilled from the childhood mostly by virtue of good family norms and good ethos play unprecedented role in achievements of a person. A foreign versity based survey shows that In a person's success, facts, figures and bookish knowledge have subtle impact ( only 15 %), while Attitude contributes 85 % in person's success.  Attitude is intangible and can't be bought or sold. It can not be learned by reading books or by joining classes. It can be imbibe through our environment in which we are living ,through the family etiquette and through our positive perspective in taking up the pragmatic problems and resolving them through legal norms.

Without right attitude, it is impossible to generate aptitude because Attitude is the manner in which we approach a situation. Aptitude is our ability to handle a situation. Without right attitude it can not be possible to draw cogent aptitude towards any situation. Sustained habits can help in forming right aptitude, consequently a man can become a successful person by making a foundation of good character and a person with good character is respected around the globe.

Attitude of a man can classify him as an optimist or a pessimist. If a person has bad or negative attitude he will see everything as unachievable while person with right or positive attitude can have optimistic view and can even accomplish the improbable. It is because right attitude can make a good character of a human being. Right attitude always absorbs good habits, and a person with good habits can make an edifice of good character which can achieve the things beyond impossible.

Greater personage of all time achieved their goal only by their positive attitude. Dr. A.P.J. abdul kalam has said " You can't change your future, But you can change your habits, and surely your habits will change your future." We can change our destiny by inculcating good habits and by altering our attitude towards situations and problems. A pessimist can take problems as obstruction in the way of success, but an optimist can take those problems as step ladder as he knows when god wants to send a gift he wraps it up in a problem, The bigger the problem he wraps it up in, the bigger the gift that it contains.

Attitude of mind can bring leniency in the habits of a person. Habits which are expedient for the people in society can augment peace in the society, if there is peace in the society , there will be peace in the country, and if there is peace in the country, there will be peace in the whole world. Today, we lack people with good attitude, and their bad habits laid by deteriorated attitude becomes the cause of their worse face. Habits which are laid by positive attitude can makes a man for the serene society.

In nutshell we can say that it is positive Attitude of a person which can fill him with good habits, and their good habits can make him great. It is hunky-dory if u have factual knowledge but it will be all in vain without making your habits suitable which successively will underlay the foundation of good character. Character is the biggest part of man's success can be gain in toto without any currency. 

By:- Tanveer Ashraf

      What we have not learnt during sixty five years of Independence ...

India has transformed profoundly from last 65 years of Independence. But the lessons which we have learnt in 65 years are far less than what we have missed during those 65 years. Conditions which were prevail at the time of independence, even exist today and in some cases it has become more worse than before. Mixed perception of hostility and euphoria were observed during 15 August 1947, the day India got its independence due to various reasons, such as partition, which was of course inevitable at that time. But in today's India we can see the same feelings of hostility and euphoria  among different religions and ethnic groups which shows that our leaders and politicians have not done much to allay that ghost of antagonism. Bifurcation of states on linguistic base still a major issue for Indian Union ( Vexatious issue of Telegana ). Sardar Vallab Bhai Patel and V.P. Menon had made it possible through their efforts by uniting more than 500 princely states to form a union of 14 states but today we have started disintegration of states again to maintain "status quo ante" which was prevail before the independence.  At present there are 28 states and according to some authentic speculation, by 2050 we will have 50 states within India. Which is detrimental sign for the existence of "Indian Union". We never endeavour to imbibe 'How to remain united?

We have never learnt how to deal with the problems prudently, especially Social problems. In spite of lots of works have been done to eradicate this draconian caste based discrimination, ill treatment of lower caste and lower class by upper class still exist in our society. Chauvinists of 'Varna System' still want to dominate over so called lower caste groups. Scarcity of religious tolerance which was felt during the days of independence can also be felt in Independent secular India. We still lack how to respect other religions along with the religion which we practice. In India we have totally failed to recognise the basic doctrine of all religions, that is "Humanity" in large perspectives.

How to alleviate poverty? Since independence, it is still an enigma. It is an election manifesto for politicians and hot topic debate for debaters, but we have never looked at grassroot level and never tried to know the atrocities and adversities of poor through which they are passing, and never have done enough to mitigate its effects. India has attained 65 years of independence, why a democratic India still holds largest number of poor in the world? It's because if a person is affluent, he never try to see others who need help to cope up with destitution. Our motives are always self-centered. We have had selfishness in our own well being. We never make ourselves cognizant with sufferings of the society of which we are also a integral part. We have never looked upon those people who sleep on an empty stomach. To eradicate such problems each and every citizen should comply by their responsibilities. There are many reasons of existing poverty. Poor lack aspiration and zeal and somewhere their own mindset becomes the decisive cause of their destitution. Poor are also caught in 'vicious cycle' from which their emancipation is very tough, but still possible. Even after 65 years of independence we have failed to end "bonded labor". In the recent news brick kilns owners of hydrabad were found guilty of perpetuating bonded labor. Child labour is still augmenting. burgeoning sexual harassment of poor women, working in these brick kilns is a great matter of concern. At the one hand India is developing , people are creating concrete jungles with high buildings and infrastructures, and on the other hand people with poor background are being exploited. Unfreedom that gets promoted in the names of free markets is the main reason of escalating inequalities and this scene is enhancing since 1990's.

Indian nationals never tried to install scientific temper within them. They still believes in the myths and mysteries. In 65 years we have moved so much towards science and technology but we still lack scientific temper. We need to legitimize our thinking through logics and by imbibing rational thinking.

Current education system of India was started by Macaulay to ruin the Indian Culture but even after 65 years of independence we rely upon on this education system. Indian are timid by nature. We should not resist necessary change. If the changes are for the welfare, we should welcome them. This is the prime cause "why we unable to make Indian education system compatible with rest of the world. Something lacks in the current education system, which unable to put a cap on unemployment and brain drain. At some point we lack ethical education also. Still people have not learnt how to make best use of human asset. Becoming rich has become a status symbol and public service has taken a back seat.

Politics of the country is becoming worse day by day. Politicians know how to create vote bank meticulously on the basis of caste and religion. They have never learnt how to fulfill the rhetoric promises. They have created efficient social engineering to perpetuate caste based vote bank through different reservation policies. Cheats and adulterers go scot free because we have not learnt to teach them lessons. Reservation policy was started to eradicate caste based discrimination and to stop casteism in the society, but we have failed to cultivate the very purpose of reservation. The real beneficiaries are still at large, and they are still deprive of reservation policy benefits, that's why caste based discrimination still persist in the society. State have never learnt how to implement this reservation system for the welfare of really needy ones.

We never want to take individual responsibilities. People only know how to criticize others for the malfunctioning of any machinery. Never learnt to change themselves, which they want to see in society. People always impose lame excuse to get rid of their obligations. We forget our duties as a responsible citizen and blame on particular institutions for 'status quo' omnishambles in the country. We always blame government , but never tried to know what are our obligations as a responsible citizen. Majority of citizens have never learnt what are their constitutional duties and how they should protect their rights from abuse.

Gender inequality is not a new problem for Indian society but we have never learnt how to allay this escalating inequality in this independent India. Girls in most cases treated as "paraya dhan' and boys always get preference over girls. If 'girl child' born in a family then everyone observe the day of mourn, but if it is boy then we celebrate it with euphoria. Notwithstanding, showing equal competence with boys, girls are always regarded as mediocre albeit the scene is gradually changing but still we have to learn too much. Hitherto we have not learnt to give proper degree of respect and care to the women. Domestic violence and prejudice against women are enough cogent evidence to endorse the aforesaid sentence.

The most important of all , We have yet not learnt to democratize our democracy. On the eve of Republic day Dr. B.R. Ambedkar had said that "Constitutional morality is not a natural sentiment. It has to be cultivated. We must realize that our people have yet to learn it. Democracy in India is only a top- dressing on an Indian soil, which is essentially undemocratic." Unfortunately, even after 65 years of independence, we have not cultivated constitutional morality and democracy is still a top-dressing on an Indian soil.

In nut shell there are myriad of lessons which we have not learnt during 65 years of Independence. And the main reason why we are so far from these lessons because 'we are comfortable with our fiasco, the pandemonium, chaos, adversities and all evils which exist today. We have never learnt these because we never dare to accept these changes, we lack enthusiasms to move towards the new dawn. If Indians will take up these issues seriously, according to my speculations, we will succeed in accomplishing all the lessons in next 15 years.

By:- Tanveer Ashraf 

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